Taking it in the ass!

[tomken]

Hey guys, I have recently just started a relationship with another guy. I am bi married and it has been a long while since I took a cock in the ass. It was with a friend who had a rather small cock. So, here is my question: I am trying to bottom for this guy and his cock is rather large, the other times I bottomed with the small cock guy it never hurt. How long will it take to be comfortable and enjoy this guys cock? The problem is it is thick, length is only 6.5 in. but around is probably 8 inches. Need some feedback.

 

[Deleted member 3858]

I would suggest trying a sex toy 1st. I play with butt plugs. Lg jewel. Lube it well. This item is neat to try. Lg.

 

[Korky]

Try using the cockring prostate vibrator, it moves nicely

 

[thongslut2]

Start with lots of lube. I use an injector to get the lube up in me. They make lubes like Anal Ease that have somewhat of a numbing quality. Also get a set of butt plugs (see Amazon). Start with the smallest and work your way up to as large as you can go. The most important thing is to stay stretched. Also get some dildos and practice riding those...

 

[Hotbunz1969]

Hey ‘Tomken’
Maths states…….If you can handle a 50mm dia balled butt plug or ass hook you’re not going to have a problem, if you can’t…….you best get in training!!!!

 

[iwah]

Hey guys, I have recently just started a relationship with another guy. I am bi married and it has been a long while since I took a cock in the ass. It was with a friend who had a rather small cock. So, here is my question: I am trying to bottom for this guy and his cock is rather large, the other times I bottomed with the small cock guy it never hurt. How long will it take to be comfortable and enjoy this guys cock? The problem is it is thick, length is only 6.5 in. but around is probably 8 inches. Need some feedback.

Lots of lube and take it slow. You are going to have to train

 

[neon_eyecandy]

I agree with the statements above… make sure youre clean and ready. You can practice using dildos. Its fun practice. Use a lot of lube and relax. I suggest that you remain in control of it entering you. I have to do this myself. Sit on him and slowly take him inside. Breathe and relax. Once the tip goes in… breathe and relax… go slow….once you take most of it, go at your pace…. Let him take over only when he’s gliding in n out. Then just enjoy.

 

[tomken]

I agree with the statements above… make sure youre clean and ready. You can practice using dildos. Its fun practice. Use a lot of lube and relax. I suggest that you remain in control of it entering you. I have to do this myself. Sit on him and slowly take him inside. Breathe and relax. Once the tip goes in… breathe and relax… go slow….once you take most of it, go at your pace…. Let him take over only when he’s gliding in n out. Then just enjoy.

Thanks for the tips.

 

[neon_eyecandy]

Thanks for the tips.

The tips will help ensure that it's a good experience...a brute who just wants to fuck can make it a bad experience quickly...that's why i always stay in control, at least at first.

 

[undieluv]

I agree with the statements above… make sure youre clean and ready. You can practice using dildos. Its fun practice. Use a lot of lube and relax. I suggest that you remain in control of it entering you. I have to do this myself. Sit on him and slowly take him inside. Breathe and relax. Once the tip goes in… breathe and relax… go slow….once you take most of it, go at your pace…. Let him take over only when he’s gliding in n out. Then just enjoy.

Breathing and relaxing definitely helped me the first time I used a butt plug (or using bigger and glass or steel plugs) and I know I'll need to remember that someday when I finally feel a real and hard cock in my hole.

 

[neon_eyecandy]

Breathing and relaxing definitely helped me the first time I used a butt plug (or using bigger and glass or steel plugs) and I know I'll need to remember that someday when I finally feel a real and hard cock in my hole.

Just the same but you got to keep the guy in check… him being anxious and horny, we forget to think… and in a hurry to mount n fuck might rush things before your anus is relaxed n ready… not a good time.

 

[undieluv]

Just the same but you got to keep the guy in check… him being anxious and horny, we forget to think… and in a hurry to mount n fuck might rush things before your anus is relaxed n ready… not a good time.

Absolutely. It needs to be how I want it, me in control, pulling the back of my thong to the side and slowly taking his cock at my pace.

 

[undieluv]

Absolutely. It needs to be how I want it, me in control, pulling the back of my thong to the side and slowly taking his cock at my pace.

Fuck now I want to practice with a toy!

 

[neon_eyecandy]

Absolutely. It needs to be how I want it, me in control, pulling the back of my thong to the side and slowly taking his cock at my pace.

Exactly… thats how to approach it.

 

[neon_eyecandy]

Fuck now I want to practice with a toy!

A toy is the perfect way to practice…. At your pace and feel how something inside will make you feel. I have a few toys myself… mmmm, they are worth it. Yum

 

[cliobd]

I quite often use different size butt plugs to help open me up

 

[undieluv]

Whenever I first try a new butt plug my thong pumped full of cum in like 15 0r 20 minutes so I'm pretty sure I'll enjoy it if I'm in control.

 

[shaved]

Not to much lube, otherwise this will slip out

 

[FlexibleFlirter]

I wish I hadn’t lost interest in bottoming when I first started my homosexual career. At around 17, I suddenly became interested in shoving things in my ass, but after a few months of unsuccessfully using butt plugs, including attempting to wear them outside, I lost interest in even attempting to receive a guy. Fast forward 10 years, and after fucking him the night before, I woke up with a raging boner against my ass, which I needed inside me; I therefore, lubed his cock up and just forced myself on to it, and as a skinny-ass white guy, he nearly ripped me! Thank god it was a morning boner and ready to shoot quickly lol! My interest over the next 3 years would be fleeting with a few, but rare bottom experiences of varying success, but after consistent practice every day for 6 months with a dildo, the switch was flicked! I started meeting this guy once per week for about 2 months and even branded myself a “bottom only” because I couldn’t get enough of the increased/different pleasure, which realistically the criteria for bottoming. One of my regulars in the past was a bottom only but I let him do some stuff to me because I was confident that his amazing sex skills would bring me a different type of pleasure. Now in a relationship, I’m completely versatile, though more bottom over the past couple of months specifically as it’s a way of guaranteeing sex lol!

In short, be persistent, accept the small amount of pain in the short run for the long term gain. And absolutely never consider yourself less masculine/less of a man for taking it in the ass, even if you become bottom only. I’d never consider a woman less feminine for wearing a strap on, the same shouldn’t be applied to men. Sex - the physical act of, only represents a tiny bit of masculinity. I don’t think anyone would call a Roman that begs to get fucked less of a man! This positive attitude, is probably what I was lacking in my early days, which is possibly why I didn’t consider bottoming - at least on a consistent basis, earlier.

 

[musclethong]

Short answer: a while
Long answer:
It takes time, practice and patience for your body to adjust. There's certainly not going to be an exact/specific amount of time and it varies for everyone. The key, as others have stated, is patience and to relax. Do not rush it. This applies to your partner as much as you. A respectful and patient partner is absolutely essential, and if he is pressuring you or making you feel inadequate for not being able to take his cock easily then he is not the right match for you.

There's so much focus on being able to take a big cock and take it well, but the whole point of sex is enjoyment! The objective should not be to take a big cock but to take a cock that feels good to you. Size is not the point. It's not like porn where a guy is just being absolutely slammed by a huge cock. The focus should not be on convincing your body that it feels good, but to listen to your body, it is telling you what feels good. Remember, your ass' purpose is to hold shit it, not to take it It can only do one or the other very well, to some degree anyway. You don't want to ware it out too much Then you have tops telling you your ass is "too loose" lol, it's a double edged sword.

As much as we idolize big cocks, having one is a mixed blessing. Not many people, men and women, can comfortably enjoy big cocks, which leaves those men with them chronically unsatisfied. That deprivation can lead to pent up frustration, which in the wrong guy can result in some passive aggressive release during sex, i.e. maybe pushing a little too hard too fast resulting in pain for you. Remember you're the one that has to live the results, not him, so protect yourself and control the pace as you're getting comfortable. I'm not saying this guy is like that, just be careful and make sure you're going at the right pace for you.

In conclusion, do what you want, I'm not telling you what to do. Just remember to go at your pace and have fun! If it's not fun or pleasurable then you have to ask why you're doing it. It will take time.