Poll and Discussion: Sexual Orientation

[deusex]

We're a diverse lot here on USG so I'm always interested talking to members about their sexual orientation and where their passion for underwear (and desire for viewing other guys in underwear if that's the case) comes from.

A lot of guys on here assume everyone is gay as they figure straight guys wouldn't want to see other guys in their underwear but I know that's simply not true, and the reasoning behind it is unique to everyone. Some straight guys are gay-curious, others simply like the compliments from other guys, some guys just want to be seen in the underwear and lots get off on either wearing underwear or seeing others in their underwear.

So, fill out the poll but more importantly, let's create a dialog to find out where we're all coming from, what turns us on, what do you get out of a website like this. Do you have spouses or partners and do they share your passion, encourage your passion or are you here on the down-low?

Enquiring minds want to know!

(If I missed a sexual orientation category in the poll, let me know!)

 

[deusex]

I started this so I may as well go first.

I'm about as 100% gay as it gets. I tried having sex with a girl once and the only reason I did was because it was supposed to be a threesome with a straight(ish) guy I had the hots for. He ended up bailing and I went through with it with the girl but it was a disaster.

Although I didn't come out until I was in my late teens, I had crushes on William Shatner, Pierce Brosnon, Burt Reynolds and Tom Selleck much earlier.

As for my obsession with underwear, I'm sure it began with checking out the men in the underwear section of the Sears and Eatons (Canadian department store) catalogs. Next was the International Male catalog. But my full-on obsession came as a result of the early days of the Internet and having access to online underwear stores from all over the world.

I've always been equally turned on by wearing sexy underwear as I am with seeing guys in sexy underwear. And because of this, USG was born.

 

[TommyD]

I’m 100% proud gay. I discovered my sexual attraction for other guys and their underwear pretty much with the onset of puberty in the mid 1970s. Every department store had their own mail-order catalog and we had several of them arriving in the mail usually with the change of every season: Sears & Roebuck, JC Penney, Montgomery Wards. The men’s underwear ads were my first jack-off material!

Beginning in Junior High School taking a shower after Phys Ed Class was required. I loved those two days a week when I got to see my classmates in their underwear and then naked; all the boys back then wore FTL or Hanes White Briefs.

I entered Senior High in 1978 and I enjoyed hanging out at the YMCA where I got to see adult men take off their clothes. That’s when I started seeing other types of underwear worn besides my tighty-whities or my Dad’s boxer shorts. About that time, too, boys my age started wearing “fashion color underwear”. Mom would take me shopping for school clothes and I got to pick out what I liked. That’s when I noticed the variety of styles in the Men’s/Boy’s Underwear Departments.

I started by choosing the FTL packs in the “Fashion Colors”. Eventually I got brave enough to try the low-rise and bikini styles when I saw a few other boys wearing them in school. Of course, I would always also pick up a pack or two of white briefs. By my Senior year in High School, 1981-1982, I had a variety of styles in my underwear drawer including trim-fit and traditional loose-fit boxer shorts.

I joined the US Navy and at that time “The Blue Jackets Manual” required underwear to be white briefs or white boxer shorts, boxer briefs didn’t exist. And, it was required to have at least one jockstrap. I opted to wear boxers as my primary underwear and briefs occasionally and that’s where I’m still at today.

Probably the greatest influence in my underwear choice was my admiration for my Dad. I always wanted to be a man like him and he always wore traditional loose-fit boxers, and it was usual in the evenings to see Dad watching TV in his boxers and a t-shirt. He was a typical man of his era: a rough around the edges WWII veteran who didn’t put up with any nonsense, but he had a heart of gold. I was so nervous “coming out” to him shortly after my Mother died in 1991, when I was 27 years old.

I told him, “Dad, I’m gay. Not a little gay, completely gay. I have no sexual attraction for girls at all, none, zero, zilch. I like to “be with” other guys. I hope you don’t hate me. Please, try and understand it’s the way I am.”

He smiled, laid his hand on mine and said, “Son, your Mother and I had known for a long time that you were gay, and we didn’t care. We could tell in the little things you would do and say. And, we noticed that you really weren’t interested in dating that pretty girl from school. The one who used to chase after you, but you only went out with her because all your friends were paring up. Then you left for the Navy and never mentioned dating or meeting anyone. We just knew, and it’s all good. I love you, your Mother loved you, and I want you to be happy.” Then he gave me a big bear-hug.

So, here I am today. An unashamed gay exhibitionist with an underwear fetish. Just having fun!

 

[deusex]

I’m 100% proud gay. I discovered my sexual attraction for other guys and their underwear pretty much with the onset of puberty. Every department store had their own mail-order catalog and we had several of them arriving in the mail usually with the change of every season: Sears & Roebuck, JC Penney, Montgomery Wards. The men’s underwear ads were my first jack-off material!

Beginning in Junior High School taking a shower after Phys Ed Class was required. I loved those two days a week when I got to see my classmates in their underwear and then naked; all the boys back then wore FTL or Hanes White Briefs.

I entered Senior High in 1978 and I enjoyed hanging out at the YMCA where I got to see adult men take off their clothes. That’s when I started seeing other types of underwear worn besides my tighty-whities or my Dad’s boxer shorts. About that time, too, boys my age started wearing “fashion color underwear”. Mom would take me shopping for school clothes and I got to pick out what I liked. That’s when I noticed the variety of styles in the Men’s/Boy’s Underwear Departments.

I started by choosing the FTL packs in the “Fashion Colors”. Eventually I got brave enough to try the low-rise and bikini styles when I saw a few other boys wearing them in school. Of course, I would always also pick up a pack or two of white briefs. By my Senior year in High School, 1981-1982, I had a variety of styles in my underwear drawer including trim-fit and traditional loose-fit boxer shorts.

I joined the US Navy and at that time “The Blue Jackets Manual” required underwear to be white briefs or white boxer shorts, boxer briefs didn’t exist. And, it was required to have at least one jockstrap. I opted to wear boxers as my primary underwear and briefs occasionally and that’s where I’m still at today.

Probably the greatest influence in my underwear choice was my admiration for my Dad. I always wanted to be a man like him and he always wore traditional loose-fit boxers, and it was usual in the evenings to see Dad watching TV in his boxers and a t-shirt. He was a typical man of his era: a rough around the edges WWII veteran who didn’t put up with any nonsense, but he had a heart of gold. I was so nervous “coming out” to him shortly after my Mother died in 1991, when I was 27 years old.

I told him, “Dad, I’m gay. Not a little gay, completely gay. I have no sexual attraction for girls at all, none, zero, zilch. I like to “be with” other guys. I hope you don’t hate me. Please, try and understand it’s the way I am.”

He smiled, laid his hand on mine and said, “Son, your Mother and I had known for a long time that you were gay, and we didn’t care. We could tell in the little things you would do and say. And, we noticed that you really weren’t interested in dating that pretty girl from school. The one who used to chase after you, but you only went out with her because all your friends were paring up. Then you left for the Navy and never mentioned dating or meeting anyone. We just knew, and it’s all good. I love you, your Mother loved you, and I want you to be happy.” Then he gave me a big bear-hug.

So, here I am today. An unashamed gay exhibitionist with an underwear fetish. Just having fun!

Thank you for sharing that. And kudos to your parents for being so cool.

I didn't have quite as smooth going with my parents but it was only a minor blip in our relationship. After telling them, and them freaking out a bit, they sent me to a psychiatrist who determined that I was normal and stable and ended up getting them in for a bit of counselling. Just after, I had moved to Toronto from Newfoundland (not because of coming out, it was part of a plan). Around six months later my Mom wrote me a long letter apologizing for the way they reacted. That was it, we've been super close ever since.

 

[TommyD]

Thank you for sharing that. And kudos to your parents for being so cool.

I didn't have quite as smooth going with my parents but it was only a minor blip in our relationship. After telling them, and them freaking out a bit, they sent me to a psychiatrist who determined that I was normal and stable and ended up getting them in for a bit of counselling. Just after, I had moved to Toronto from Newfoundland (not because of coming out, it was part of a plan). Around six months later my Mom wrote me a long letter apologizing for the way they reacted. That was it, we've been super close ever since.

It's good to hear that your parents came quickly to acceptance. I heard absolute horror stories from some of my close friends.

 

[pierre625]

I am 100% gay. I came out to myself, my family and then my parents in the summer of 1974. All the problems with family and parents did not last very long. I have had a fetish for underwear for a very long time. Do not know when it started. Because am retired on those days that I do not have go out or do not expect any company, I like just being in underwear and nothing else, all day.

 

[lycrathong]

I think I first remember feeling different from other boys wheh I was about 8, though I didn't knw why as there were no positive role model around then. I started collecting underwear from my early 20s, and found I got sexually aroused looking at underwear catalogues, and trying on skimpy styles in front of a full length mirror. I had health problems in my 20s, so didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 31. I made up for lost time, and often enjoyed using underwear as a sex aid. I've been having gay sex now for over 40 years and enjoy it a much as ever. These days my favourite encounters are with cute 18-21s, there is nothing like a young ass in a joskstrap.

 

[BubbleThong]

I’m in my mid 20s and came out around 5yrs ago to some and more fully recently. Around the same time, 2yrs ago i started dating guys and one in particular bought me a sexy thong and, via some positive reinforcement, really got me into wearing skimpy gear all the time...he would want me to wear them during sex which i now find to be totally hot and get turned on just thinking about him taking me from behind!

 

[deusex]

I am 100% gay. I came out to myself, my family and then my parents in the summer of 1974. All the problems with family and parents did not last very long. I have had a fetish for underwear for a very long time. Do not know when it started. Because am retired on those days that I do not have go out or do not expect any company, I like just being in underwear and nothing else, all day.

I think I first remember feeling different from other boys wheh I was about 8, though I didn't knw why as there were no positive role model around then. I started collecting underwear from my early 20s, and found I got sexually aroused looking at underwear catalogues, and trying on skimpy styles in front of a full length mirror. I had health problems in my 20s, so didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 31. I made up for lost time, and often enjoyed using underwear as a sex aid. I've been having gay sex now for over 40 years and enjoy it a much as ever. These days my favourite encounters are with cute 18-21s, there is nothing like a young ass in a joskstrap.

I’m in my mid 20s and came out around 5yrs ago to some and more fully recently. Around the same time, 2yrs ago i started dating guys and one in particular bought me a sexy thong and, via some positive reinforcement, really got me into wearing skimpy gear all the time...he would want me to wear them during sex which i now find to be totally hot and get turned on just thinking about him taking me from behind!

Loving all these coming out stories! Whether it's coming out of the closet or coming out as an underwear fetishist!

Keep them coming!

 

[Deleted member 199]

Sunday morning papers always contained department store clothing advertisements. I’d wait until the family had vanished from the living room and steal away with a selection of clippings. There was a crawl space in my room where I’d store all the ads and eventually, some of my kinkier underwear. There was something safe about those images. Growing up in a conservative household, that small bit of fabric acted as a shield against “gay.” It wasn’t men—it was the underwear. And, a fetishist was born.

I had some Jockey kangaroo pouch white briefs and when I first started getting erections the sensation of my head popping up through the fly was... intense. Masturbation was frowned upon so I’d find creative ways to get off, hands-free: grinding into the bed, pulling the fly up and down as a simulation, and later, stroking with the cotton fly acting as a barrier between my hands and my hard cock.

Eventually, it evolved into exhibitionism. When I got my first apartment by myself, I remember watching handsome men jog around the park outside my living room window. So I started cleaning, exercising, doing everything in my briefs... hoping one of them would peer in.

USG was a major player in my fetish. I’ve been a member for many years—since I was in college. I love reading other stories, looking at photos and taking my own, and contacting other handsome men with similar interests.

 

[Daniel]

We're a diverse lot here on USG so I'm always interested talking to members about their sexual orientation and where their passion for underwear (and desire for viewing other guys in underwear if that's the case) comes from.

A lot of guys on here assume everyone is gay as they figure straight guys wouldn't want to see other guys in their underwear but I know that's simply not true, and the reasoning behind it is unique to everyone. Some straight guys are gay-curious, others simply like the compliments from other guys, some guys just want to be seen in the underwear and lots get off on either wearing underwear or seeing others in their underwear.

So, fill out the poll but more importantly, let's create a dialog to find out where we're all coming from, what turns us on, what do you get out of a website like this. Do you have spouses or partners and do they share your passion, encourage your passion or are you here on the down-low?

Enquiring minds want to know!

(If I missed a sexual orientation category in the poll, let me know!)

Could you add pansexual? Thanks!

 

[deusex]

Could you add pansexual? Thanks!

Done!

 

[Daniel]

Done!

Thank you!

 

[Daniel]

Definitely pansexual. All that matters to me is how a person feels. Gender doesn't matter at all.

 

[sug555]

I would describe myself as straight. Have been very happily married for 49 years. I do love, though, having my cock sucked and sucking other guys' cocks at the naturist club I go to as the sensation is fabulous and is something my wife is not into. But I would never go any further. So what does that make me?

 

[Daniel]

It makes you a good guy, we are here to express our personal feelings, so to each his own!

Spot on!

 

[Brent69]

I'm a 51 year old gay man who has a big fetish for guys in underwear, especially traditional boxers. Also have a huge fetish for guys in suits as well

 

[Socrates]

Me..... I'm straight. Always have been. I tried to be gay, but it didn't work with me at all. I even asked a shrink 'How come....?', and they said 'You can be straight or gay to have paraphilia (For that is what she said it was, but I'm not on her page, there).

I was married - twice - and both wives were ok with it, particularly the second.

BUT...... and it's a big but, I think a lot of people with this 'passion?' can be railroaded into guilt over it. 'It's not what blokes do', 'You absolutely must be gay', 'You're trans', 'Urgh.... you dress-up in women's clothes!!!', and a whole host of other denigrations. So therefore, it becomes, for most, a hidden secret only to be shared with those you trust implicitly and..... intimately. But what happened in the first place?

I'd oh so love to do a proper scientific study as to the causative factors. It could have its source in nothing at all...... right the way through to childhood experiences/trauma/exposure, even family demographics.

But I can't, so I won't. If you read my Introduction' in the forum for newbie messages, you'll see how I stand as of today. I'm older and getting into that 'I don't care why.... I am what I am' mode.

Sad thing is, it's currently still lonely out there and I've not yet had the guts to go Koala on the beach yet, although I have done conservative G strings on the beach.

My best experience....... me and two girls - all night long partying (indoors) in each of our skimpiest gear. It was........ heaven.

Per

 

[deusex]

I'm a 51 year old gay man who has a big fetish for guys in underwear, especially traditional boxers. Also have a huge fetish for guys in suits as well

Love a guy in a suit as well!

 

[undyguy79]

1000% gay, late out of the closet though (in my 30s)