Poll and Discussion: Sexual Orientation

[fuckinundies]

I always thought that I am straight, but I guess that is not quite true. I have this underwear fetish since I was 13 or so. Ever since I enjoyed watching other boys and guys in their undies as well as I enjoyed masturbating in mine.

The next "big thing" was to get some pairs of a little sexier style (jocks, bulge enhancing stuff, slightly transparent etc.). I really loved to take pictures in sexy poses, which might be a bit narcissistic, but I didn't dare to ask others for a non-professional photo shooting (so thanks for having this webside!). Most of these pics are lost, but I still enjoy doing this (still don't dare to ask others to do some modeling for me; would probably get a hard one instantly ;-) ).

It took almost 25 years, until I finally touched another guys junk through his undies (and without undies). I really enjoyed his reaction and apparently this was reciprocal ;-)

I am not married, but I am still also into women. So I consider myself to be bi.

 

[Briefsguy]

I am gay, but realizing that has been a journey. I grew up in a small town in the UK in the 50’s and 60’s, so no internet and no gay role models. I knew from a very young age that I was different somehow, but was not sure why. I went through puberty early and was confused, but at 10, I loved standing in front of a mirror playing with myself in my underwear and would try on my dad’s briefs when I had the house to myself, so my underwear fetish started early! By the time I went to college I decided I was bi, but would never do anything with guys. I successfully slept with girls, though all my fantasies were about guys. I started buying sexy underwear then too. Eventually I met a girl I really liked, got married, became an American, had kids, was mostly happy. Wife knew I had an underwear fetish and was ok with it. But I still had secret fantasies about guys. After many years the marriage fell apart for reasons that had nothing to do with my sexuality and I was single in a whole new world. I explored sex with men on the DL and loved it! I spent several years trying everything I wanted to try, then unexpectedly met a special guy while traveling. Eventually we decided to make it permanent, which meant we had to come out. So in my 50’s I came out to my family, kids, friends, work, everyone, and most were very supportive. Been married for 6 years now. And he is supportive about the underwear!

 

[TommyD]

I'm a 51 year old gay man who has a big fetish for guys in underwear, especially traditional boxers. Also have a huge fetish for guys in suits as well

Same with me! I wear traditional loose-fit white boxer shorts most of the time. Sometimes I "play" in white briefs and jocks but I've always found older men wearing traditional boxers very attractive. I'm also turned on by blue collar men in work uniforms.

 

[vernon]

We're a diverse lot here on USG so I'm always interested talking to members about their sexual orientation and where their passion for underwear (and desire for viewing other guys in underwear if that's the case) comes from.

A lot of guys on here assume everyone is gay as they figure straight guys wouldn't want to see other guys in their underwear but I know that's simply not true, and the reasoning behind it is unique to everyone. Some straight guys are gay-curious, others simply like the compliments from other guys, some guys just want to be seen in the underwear and lots get off on either wearing underwear or seeing others in their underwear.

Hi all

Haven't had chance to post here on the new USG site but would like to first of all say deusEx/John, what an amazing job you have done getting this site up and running after time was called on the old one! A huge thanks not just from me but I'm sure from all who appreciate what you offer.

So let's get the questions out of the way that you asked. First of all I am a straight guy who's married with kids. So I sit in the something around 20% of poll respondents at this point in time and I'll admit I thought it might be lower but I'm ambivalent on that as we're in an age where we should always accept one another for what we are. As my wife says to me about wearing thongs all the time, as long as you are happy is the most important thing.

My passion for underwear and swimwear started way back in my teen years so over 35 years ago. Coming from UK originally, I saw the rise of the thong as beachwear in the 80's and was taken with it. Both men and women were trying it as a new thing. Without money, my big swimsuit my Dad had determined for me got massacred with scissors and I created my own thong out of one. It was that and the look (though it was pretty shambolic with my cloth abilities) that just made me determined to buy them when I could afford to which wasn't until closer to 18. I first bought cheaper ones from Top Man in London (UK folk will know these) and they were mostly ugh. And then I bought the HOM Fredy and knew then that you just need to spend that bit more to get a bit less lol. I also bought the T-back G-strings from Hom that are swimwear. Huge pouch by today's standards but it was skimpy nonetheless being a G-string.

I am something of an exhibitionist out when in swimwear at beaches so often the only one wearing one. In Australia you seem to be able to wear what you want though without being hassled other than by the odd teen (had one disappointing experience last year) but it's still boardshorts world here. I've had many different thongs over the years and worn them all over the place and often as the only man. I enjoy seeing men and women in them, and on here as I imagine myself in the same so keep on posting those awesome pics on the gallery. They give me ideas for myself and I'll say I do just appreciate seeing small underwear and swimwear. It's awesome.

I've really transitioned in to wearing micro thongs at the beach and was lucky enough to get advice from microstringlvr at the old USG site when I started buying from Jovanadesign a few years back. An absolute gent and thanks for the advice.

I've just got back from the beach and was wearing my yellow Micro 4D thong there. It was actually a great day just yesterday on my way home early to Sydney from family as needing to get back to work and dropped in at a beach that's on the way where you see nude, thongs, board shorts, kids, paragliders you name it on a huge beach where there's absolutely no issues about what you want to wear. A very free and easy attitude. The nude section is at one end and possibly the nicest bit of the beach so I did manage to mix up a couple of hours in my thong with a couple of hours of nude.

I haven't brought any of my pictures across yet not that I posted many to the old site though I wasn't a prolific picture poster. I only posted ones I thought would be appreciated. I'm fussy and very self critical and try to tell myself not to be but hey, that's who I am.

Anyway, that's me.

 

[wilf05]

I would describe myself as straight. Have been very happily married for 49 years. I do love, though, having my cock sucked and sucking other guys' cocks at the naturist club I go to as the sensation is fabulous and is something my wife is not into. But I would never go any further. So what does that make me?

HOT

 

[SweatyAussie]

Total poofter here. I have no sexual interest in women at all.

I was probably about thirteen or fourteen when I started to notice that my schoolmates were starting to change the way they talked about girls - going from the usual little boys' "Girls are soppy" attitude to saying things like doesn't so-and-so look good, wonder what she's like under her skirt, etc. I didn't understand because my feeeling about girls never changed at all - I always respected them and got along well with them but it was always other boys that I preferred to be with. Then I started to notice how sexy some of my male classmates looked, especially if I happened to see them in jeans instead of the usual school uniform. This may have started my fetish for tight jeans.

From that time on I knew I was more interested in men, in fact solely interested in men, but it was not until some time later that I learned I was by no means the only man on the planet who felt like this, and that there was a name for it: "homosexual", also known by a number of slang terms of which "poofter" seemed to be the most common.

Regarding the underwear fetish, I grew up wearing the large loose briefs that were standard at the time. This was when my mother was still buying all my clothes for me. On one occasion, however, she brought home a couple of pairs of undies in a new skimpy style called "Jockette" that were just starting to be marketed. I tried them on, and discovered that for some reason they just made me feel good. They were actually cradling my dick and balls instead of just sort of hanging off my waist. I wore them often but felt I occasionally had to give the other older briefs their turn; I suppose I was a bit worried about Mum thinking I was a little strange for wearing those skimpy ones all the time. Eventually she must have realised I preferred the skimpier underpants because I got supplied with more by and by... and not long afterwards I started earning some money and began buying my own clothes. From then there was no looking back.

Those Jockette undies were pretty tame compared with some of the stuff I wear now and that I see on other USG members, but they were what got me started; those and the skimpy little bathers we all wore for school swimming lessons.

 

[Deleted member 3098]

I'm probably gay curios.lm attracted to women but love looking myself or other men in hot undies.l tend to fantasize about sex scenes with men in underwear.This came about when l tried to give up underwear fetish.lve never dated or went with gay.Being with a gay or bi who's wearing hot undies sounds.l might play with someone with.l think that's as far as it would go.But l really don't know till l try l guess.Check out my answer to why l have underwear fetish and why lm in this pedicament.Maybe lm gay and just don't know it yet

 

[Deleted member 3098]

Thank you for responding.Its interesting.lt seems like 95percent of underwear fetishes are gay or bi.Only a few of us are curious

 

[Daniel]

Thank you for responding.Its interesting.lt seems like 95percent of underwear fetishes are gay or bi.Only a few of us are curious

I don't think it matters. We all have a fascination with underwear. That brings us together more than does our sexual preferences

 

[Deleted member 3098]

Yes l would say your right.

 

[RyanMI]

I was convinced for years that I was straight, but I’ve always firmly believed that love has no boundaries and that if someone met the right person it wasn’t what is between their legs but what’s in their heart and mind that truly matters. Plus, like many above I found those underwear catalogs captivating.

I also found the paintings of ancient civilizations in National Geographic very interesting: Aztec warriors, Egyptians in linen kilts, etc. I wanted to wear those things too, to feel what it was like and to see my body dressed minimally. I also grew up playing hockey, so jockstraps and group showers were part of life. Yet I was very stoic about sex. Very respectful of boundaries and totally oblivious to flirting. Sigh.

Growing up I almost exclusively wore white FTL briefs. I would twist towels and washcloths into loincloths in the shower and check my wet body out in the mirror. I discovered masturbation early (ironically from Dr. Dobson’s book about the sins of premarital sex) and jacked off daily, sometimes multiple times, often with underwear as the focus... not much going on with real or fantasy people in my imagination. It was more about the sensations of my arousal and seeing my erection tenting my briefs.

In college I tried boxers and settled on boxer briefs and trunk briefs until my late twenties, when I rediscovered fundoshi. Fundoshi was something I had glimpsed way back in those National Geographic days and been curious about. But information was scant pre-internet. At age 28 I tied my first fundoshi, torn out of an old soft bed sheet.

I began voraciously hunting down photos of fundoshi, almost 99% men. Probably 2/3 pictures of Japanese cultural events and 1/3 sensual homoerotic photos. Or porn. As I dug deeper the pictures got gayer. I began to gradually accept that I was bi. Still dating women but intrigued by men also, in a frankly sexual way. Strangely, men were the more mysterious sex for me.

Being a late bloomer in many ways, by the time this realization had fully occurred, I was years into a serious and fulfilling relationship that I’m still, by grace and luck, very happy in.

At the same time I was secretly blogging about fundoshi and going on solo camping trips where I’d wear fundoshi in the woods, snap pictures and send them to internet friends around the world. Some of this was known by my partner, some was suspected, some I concealed. When it finally all came to light it nearly caused a crisis in our marriage. But instead, a weight was lifted.

We’ve spent the last few years working out the shape of our relationship and how my bisexuality (and hers) fits into it. The decision to try non monogamy was made... and shortly after that the world went into lockdown.

 

[Deleted member 3098]

Interesting story.lve found several people in this group are married.l could be bi myself but lm not sure.lve been attracted to only a couple men who were straight.Mostly lm attracted to women.But still it interesting hearing other people's stories

 

[Daniel]

Interesting story.lve found several people in this group are married.l could be bi myself but lm not sure.lve been attracted to only a couple men who were straight.Mostly lm attracted to women.But still it interesting hearing other people's stories

I'm married to a woman who is a very good match. Doesn't mean I can't like cocks.

 

[Deleted member 3098]

Wow l joined a bi dating site for short time.But nobody interested in undies and everybody too far away.l never met anyone even though several interested.There were couples interested also but l just didn't do anything.l got scammed by a couple gals but caught on on in time.l went under guise as bi curious.I wanted to talk first to a couple people in restraunt
But they weren't interested.All they wanted was sex.One of these times l could experemt

 

[RyanMI]

Wow l joined a bi dating site for short time.But nobody interested in undies and everybody too far away.l never met anyone even though several interested.There were couples interested also but l just didn't do anything.l got scammed by a couple gals but caught on on in time.l went under guise as bi curious.I wanted to talk first to a couple people in restraunt
But they weren't interested.All they wanted was sex.One of these times l could experemt

It's not easy to find likeminded people. Keep trying, let people know exactly what you're looking for. It's like fishing for a specific fish.

 

[Deleted member 3098]

I'm really not too worried about.l had my opportunities.One time l visited a pride festival and a group of guys were wowed by my body.They invited me to lgbtq retreat
They told you could all the friends you want.l thought about it but never went.l guess l was wondering where do l sleep.l definitely would of had chances to find if lm bi there.l have a hot ass.ln singles groups l was told to pull my shirttail out many times and warned to watch what l wear.
One time the leaders of a retreat accused me of dressing to draw attention to myself.They didn't like the jeans l was wearing.So l put on another pair.They didn't like that so l put on another pair.That was last pair l had l told them.They concluded l looked hot no matter what l wore so they left me alone.
I was offered a chance to be in gay movies by a company but I declined.l certainly would of found out then if l was bi.That incident came about when l visited a porn store to see a porn star who was visiting

 

[Deleted member 3098]

Sorry l got cut off previous post.l will continue.When this star saw me she chased me through the store and wanted me to flirt with her.I was nervous because this unexpected being chased by a star.She was called back to her post to greet people.l thought maybe it was a joke.But l looked back and nobody was laughing.l went to the stars other staff to find out what was going.We came around to talking about the porn business.They told me if you become a star the gals will call you.They said it all depends on how big you are.l was surprised they would be interested in me.l told them l have muscles.They said that would come later.Then they asked me if l would do gay movies.Maybe they asked that because l didn't respond to the beautiful gal chasing me.l talked to star again and she gave me business card and shook my hand and smiled.l lingered a bit and noticed she gave nobody else a business card and shook nobody elses hand.l realized this was my ticket into the porn industry if l wanted it.Since l had muscles l was thinking maybe they figured l had a million dollar booty.Who knows.They next day l went back to the shop and the employees were buzzing about this star being interested in me.I later asked the manager about the incident.I asked do they think l might become a star or what?He told me he thinks she had the hots for me but he wasn't certain.All l had to do was contact here.l thought about it for awhile but decided to throw the card away.lm wondering what a fool l was.l should have at least called her to try to find out at least why she was interested in.l probably would of got a free trip anyway.l was 45 when this happened.Since lm a health nut l tend to look 10 to 20 years younger so she probably figured l was in my late 20s or 30s.lve had some gals guess my age 25 to 30 years younger.I was in my early 50s when the guys at pride festival were wowed by my body.They looked to be in 30s so they probably thought l was also.The agency did say it all depends how big you are.lm a little bigger than average like 6 1/2 inches with full balls.lm only 1/2 inch above so l may not have been big enough anyway.But that was quite an experience.Boy l wished l would have contacted her

 

[Deleted member 3098]

Ooops l meant l had no muscles in above post

 

[Deleted member 3098]

I'm married to a woman who is a very good match. Doesn't mean I can't like cocks.

I've never sucked a cock.I enjoy watching underwear blowjobs and guys bumping each other in undies and playing with each other in undies.Those things l mentioned would be the things l would do at this point if ever given oppurtunity

 

[SweatyAussie]

I have come to the conclusion from visiting other sites, as well as some personal experience, that man-to-man spanking sometimes serves as "the sex you have when you're not having sex". "It's not really sexual" the spankee can tell himself as he bends over and pulls down his underpants. After all, male-to-male spanking (usually teacher-to-pupil) was common in the days before corporal punishment was phased out of schools.

As someone who usually cracks a fat from getting a spanking, I find it hard to believe that these guys actually feel no erotic component. It's my belief that they are indeed enjoying it in an erotic sense, but are able to tell themselves that they are still "straight" because it's not really sex, not in the sense of involving penetration. It's a kind of denial on their part, but I try not to judge. You can't drag someone out of the closet until they are ready to come out.